Subscribe Delegate! Delegate! Delegate!
In real-estate they say, “Location! Location! Location!” and with weddings I say, “Delegate! Delegate! Delegate!”. Don’t make the mistake I made and neglect to delegate jobs/responsibilities. You need someone to be your assistant or coordinator. Though your wedding day is likely to be a bit stressful no matter what, having someone who understands your vision for the day and knows all the “who’s, what’s, when’s, where’s, why’s and how’s” will help keep stress at bay and allow the two of you to joyfully just be the bride and groom.
Delegating and designating assistance is equally important to planning your wedding day. I had every detail planned out and knew exactly how everything was supposed to go, but no one else did. As such, I couldn’t just be the “blushing bride” on my big day; I was the coordinator and at times the laborer ‚Äî something I do not recommend. There was actually one point in which I was sitting in my grandma’s kitchen with the hairstylist curling my hair, having a conversation on my cell about how the reception site was supposed to be arranged, and a bridesmaid calling on the house line to ask if I knew where she left her shoes! Don’t let this happen to you!
If I could go back in time this is what I would do:
- Delegate all wedding day tasks that I didn’t personally have to be involved with
- Go over all wedding day tasks with those enlisted to help (so they fully understand what’s needed/expected)
- Hire a wedding coordinator or enlist a responsible, willing and capable friend or relative to handle everything on the wedding day
- Let everyone know that all issues, questions, etc. should be directed to the coordinator
- Screen my phone calls and record a voice mail message directing all wedding related calls to the coordinator (including their name & number)
- Introduce my coordinator to vendors prior to the wedding day so they know who to go to in case there are any issues/questions
- Go over all the wedding day details, including the wedding day timeline, with the coordinator
- Ask the coordinator to make minor decisions for me and only involve me when necessary
Think of it this way: You’re the CEO of your business, (Wedding Day). You will need to have an assistant (Maid of Honor/Best Man) and several employees (Wedding Party). Because you contract with several specialized services (Vendors) to enhance your business (Wedding Day), you will need a general manager or director of operations (Wedding Coordinator) to ensure success. Top CEOs don’t answer phones, take out the trash, or handle minor complaints ‚Äî they have qualified people to do this for them! Oh, and good CEOs with successful businesses understand the difference between quantity and quality and don’t have employees filling several job titles (e.g. don’t have your Maid of Honor be your Coordinator!).
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